“I had undergone many sleepless nights trying to decide WHERE to birth and WHO I wanted my primary caregiver to be. After numerous visits to different Gynae’s, I realised there was something seriously missing in this prenatal care procedure.
At that time, I embarked on a HypnoBirthing course, which gave me the confidence to change to midwife led care and a home birth. This was possibly the best decision I ever made.
After someone recommending Nicolene Laubscher to me, I made contact with her and went for my first appointment. How different this type of care was from regular Gynae’s. For the first time, I actually felt like my preferences counted, I was genuinely cared for and even though Nicolene had hundreds of patients, I always felt like her number one priority when I was there. I had found the missing link.
My pregnancy was absolutely flawless, right up until 36 weeks when my blood pressure went up and I developed preeclampsia. There was my vision of a home birth, right out the window! Now, I had two choices and a home birth was not one of them. I could pay a ridiculous amount and go to a private hospital, leaving Nicolene’s care – probably resorting to a C-section OR, I could put my trust in this amazing midwife, who had a great relationship with the maternity ward at Paarl general hospital and who assured me that if I went there, I could remain in her care and she could still birth my baby or remain with me if I had to have a C-section. I had built so much trust in her that I took a leap of faith and went to a government hospital.
As it turned out, I was treated really well by the maternity staff, had great doctors and the best part is that they did not resort to a C-section straight away.
After being in their care for another 7 days, until baby was at least 37 weeks, I had to be induced but I could still have the natural birth that I had planned, with Nicolene by my side.
We all thought the induction was going to go on for at least 2-3 days, as most of the woman in the unit who had inductions were climbing the walls in the passage in agony for a good few days. I went into labour about 5 mins after my first dose.
Thankfully, my HypnoBirthing practice paid off and I never actually knew I was in labour – the only way I knew was because of that awful foetal monitor I was hooked up to overnight. By the next morning, the doctors thought I was bonkers because I wasn’t in any pain, yet my contractions were coming at a fast rate. Nicolene was there the entire time, checking in on me. At 2pm my waters broke and my contractions came in hard and fast. Nicolene was my anchor since not even my husband could get into the hospital until I was 5cm dilated due to hospital protocol. I was at 5 when my waters broke so hubby rushed in as her head crowned at 2.45pm…only 45mins later. My daughter was born at 2.55pm.
If Nicolene had not been there, I would not have been able to have the confidence I did in that type of setting. She was there when no one else could be and from when my daughter was born right up until August this year, when my daughter turns one, she has been guiding me, teaching me, reassuring me…the list goes on. I have sometimes messaged her in the middle of the night in a flat panic (as you do) and she has helped me. She has done all my daughters vaccinations, helped with her diet plan and guided me every step of the way.
It is during this last year that I have realised that no other care provider in the medical field would have given me the amount of care and guidance as Nicolene has. I realised that she does her job because it’s a passion, not because it’s her job. I was inspired by my experience and by her care which led me to become a birth Doula and HypnoBirthing practitioner.
If one had to look at the details of my experience from a negative point of view, one would really think I had a terrible birth experience, but I look at it as an opportunity for a great story of inspiration and realisation that it really doesn’t matter what setting your birth takes place in, what matters is the choice of care provider, and unfortunately nowadays, woman really need to choose wisely when it comes to choosing their method of care.
Nicolene is one of those people who leave a lasting imprint on your life. There is no other person who I would recommend more than her.”